Spotlight: It's Engagement Season!

4. Lock in the foundation: planner and venue or date.

Once priorities are clear, securing your planner and venue or date creates the framework for everything else.

“These two steps are the foundation for everything else - your vendor selection and availability, your design direction, your budget planning, and your guest experience,” explains Toerien.

Guest count plays a critical role here. “Draft an initial guest list before venue hunting,” says Shevchenko. “Headcount dramatically impacts venue options and budget requirements. This practical step saves time and prevents disappointment later.”

5. Get organized early, but keep it simple.

Organization does not have to be complicated. “Get organized early,” says Morales. “That can be as simple as a shared Google Doc or wedding app.”

Shevchenko also recommends setting boundaries from the start. “Implement weekly wedding free time to protect your relationship. This keeps perspective fresh and ensures you enjoy the engagement journey together.”

Common Engagement Season Mistakes to Avoid

Rushing into bookings without a clear budget or vision.

“One of the biggest mistakes couples make is rushing into booking venues or vendors before setting a clear budget or vision,” says Nason. “Without professional guidance, it is easy to overspend or overlook logistics.”

Trying to do everything at once.

According to Jenny Giammanco of Ventura Rental Party and Events, couples often feel pressure to have every detail figured out immediately. “You do not need every detail in week one. Enjoy being engaged. It is such a short, sweet chapter.”

Skipping professional guidance early on.

Planners and vendors consistently stress that early guidance prevents decisions you might regret later. “Bringing a planner on early ensures your choices align with your goals,” Nason adds, “and helps you avoid costly missteps.”

How to Slow Down and Stay Productive

Define what truly matters to you.

Shevchenko suggests each partner identify three non negotiable priorities. “This focus helps allocate your budget meaningfully toward what truly matters to you both.”

Plan in manageable phases.

Giammanco encourages couples to think of planning as a creative process, not a race. “When you're ready, tackle planning in bite size chunks. Let the fun stuff (like curating your rental wedding checklist) be a creative adventure instead of a to-do list.”

Reaching out to vendors early can also be helpful without committing to every detail. “It helps you get a feel for your budget without the stress,” she notes.

Let professionals handle the pressure.

“A planner can keep you organized with realistic timelines so tasks feel manageable, not overwhelming,” says Nason. “Let them handle the details so you can focus on celebrating this season together.”

What Can Wait?

Pinterest boards. Favors. Exact linens. Signature cocktails.
Those details will come, and they will be better once your foundation is set.

Engagement season is not a race. It is a fleeting, meaningful chapter that deserves to be enjoyed just as much as the wedding day itself. Slow down, build thoughtfully, and trust that with the right first steps, everything else will fall beautifully into place.

Photo by Ellie Koleen with Booker Winery and Zest It Up